Thought of the day

Someone commented that I am fortunate to be working in this prestigious tower.


I replied that one cannot realistically conclude an environment by judging an architecture. You have to be in it to see the spiders weaving the webs, monkeys throwing arrows, the dogs catching dogs, the cats scratching cats, rats trying to fit into lions' costumes, lions eating the squirrels, vampires playing frisbees with spikes, maggots finding their next victims......

That's the real action INSIDE.

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只有两个字形容做（家务）事的男人：

乱来！

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The healthier ones get the penalty

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When a man is fully engaged with his games,

he is oblivious to the war that is going on outside his room.

He appears only when the war is about to end

And thinks the world is a peaceful place.

Outbreak of the day

I am rushing time with life

Yet someone is rushing time with game.

piece of shit!

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Do men think that they are only needed during life and death situation?

Other times, they are just bystanders?

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Men claim to help.

Yes they do.

But their help is so inconsistent that women don't really want to rely on.

Makes sense?

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Men can really plan their time well.

While a mother has no time for even a little TV programme,

A father can watch everyday!

Mums should learn from dads.....

TMD!

It's just me, or.....

Trust me,

You will never understand my emotional baggage.

And the load is too huge to be shared.

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Got eyes don't see;

Got ears don't hear;

Got brains don't think.

Don't these reflect us at some points (or most points) of our lives?

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A man's notion of taking care of kids is very much task oriented.

When he is asked to feed the kid, he disappears after the feed.

When he is asked to change the diaper, he disappears after changing diaper.

His role is more like a helper than a caretaker.

Applies to all?

Outbreak of the day

I can't help it but

I am VERY angry with my life now!!

是你在整我吗？

老天，不晓得跟你有关系吗？如果无关就请forward到有关当局。

这阵子，我的生活好混乱。一个接一个出现问题，然后两三个又再接力棒似的轮流再出问题。

我想请问你是不是冲着我来的？你是不是认为我还能顶就一直发出挑战？是不是我一直能顶你就一直来搞我？那你干脆就直接冲着我来就好，别搞我身边的人！

谢谢！

Happy morning gal

Took this pic two days ago early in the morning. Eh, ah gal, waiting for your hair to grow soon leh.

Love to see her smile early in the morning when she wakes up....and before she turns cranky, heh heh heh...

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Never fight with the TV for a husband's attention.

You will never win.

He will only see your presence when he is bored with the TV.

Fair statement?

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A woman asks for help so that she can do other chores;

A man asks for help so that he can rest.

reflects general MANkind?

Outbreak of the day

The VIXENS:

TVs, Computers, Handphones.

Should send all of them to 进猪笼!

Damn it!

First day at new IFC

Today is Baby En's first day at the new infant care centre. As there was a heavy downpour in the morning, we left home a little later than usual, since I am not working and En was still sleeping. So she could sleep a littttle longer.

She woke up happy.

Then we set off for the IFC. There she started fine. She was surveying the place as I carried her and Teacher Pat 'unloaded' her stuff. When we finally set her down on the play mat, she started crying when Teacher Pat spoke with her. Teacher Pat said she was recognising people around her. So on and off, I had to talk to her, pat her and carry her.

But well, the crankiness was also due to several reasons: hungry (was time to drink her milk), sleepy (cos she kept rubbing her eyes) and of course being in a new environment.

After milk and bath, she was fine again. Then before she had her nap, she was crying again. I left after she settled in and fell asleep. When I returned in the afternoon, she was playing! Teacher Pat said she was very good. I could see Baby En was very happy playing with the stuff. I was relieved. Phew.

Monday's another day I will be following her and let's hope Baby En settles in.

Gambatte!

Last day at Star Learners tomorrow

Baby En is going to her current infant care centre (Star Learners) for a last day tomorrow. She has been here since mid March and it was the best choice out of no choice when I started going to work after maternity. Our AMK IFCs were full and we were placed on waitlist.

Thankfully we were offered a place at the IFC nearest to our home last month and we have serve a month's notice to withdraw from this school.

This evening, we bought a little cake and card to show our appreciation to her caregivers. We will miss them! Shall present this to them tomorrow morning! :)

Thank you, teachers for taking care of Baby En En.

A single burden?

Not talking about single parent but rather a single child.

When I was a younger kid and even young adult, people around kept commenting how pampered I must have been since I am the only child in the family. I could have what I wanted, didn't have to share toys (and other things) and have the 'whole world' to myself. Some asked if I felt lonely.

Well, yes, as a single child, I was (and probably still am) the focus of the family. Attention was on me. Though I was not excessively pampered, I was lucky to have most things I wanted to have and own stuff. And whether I felt lonely, no, I was brought up the way I was and it was peace that I enjoyed.

As I grew older, the fact of life slowly set in. Now people ask if I feel stressed and burden having to take care of my parents (now only dad, as mum passed on in 1993) all alone without any other siblings sharing the burden, ie in terms of finance, time and other care. I did not feel the pressure until the baby came along. I suddenly feel that I cannot split myself into two and give 2 equal focus and equal quality of care that I used to give dad. I feel terribly guilty and upset and depress, esp with lots of things happening these weeks. With lots of attention needed by the little baby, I feel I am 'losing touch' with dad. I dont want that to happen. Can I do something about it?? This really bothers me a great deal. And it's making me mentally very strained.

On the other hand, I thought of my gal. If she is going to be the only child we are going to have, am I also being fair to her? Will she be in the same situation as I am now when she is older and we (her parents) get older? Am I causing her great burden to bring her into this world?

As I look at En, and see my situation now, I couldnt help but cry. I don't want her to bear such a big burden if I can help it.

These two weeks have been tough (rough's the more appropriate word) and I hope this will ease off soon. I am already on the verge of cracking and probably have, today.

Perfect description on my life now

- source from Mum's Business FB page.

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There may be a thousand things happening at home at a time, but the man only sees one or two things he wants to see or wants to do. He is oblivious to the other thousand things even though they happen RIGHT UNDER HIS NOSE!

Dad has caught the flu and is running a fever

I think Baby En's cough and flu is potent. It has hit all of us - first hubby, then dad and now me. I thought dad's share was over as he was coughing two days ago. But this evening he was not well and was suddenly down with flu. I asked him to check his temp and it was 39.1C!

As I need to take care of Baby En, hubby brought him to SGH A&E and they are still there. They are keeping watch on his heart and now waiting for blood test and xray result, according to hubby.

I hope he gets well soon. :(

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A mummy does what is needed to do whatever happens.

A daddy does when he is in the mood to do and leave it when he is tired.

Is it so?

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Women can do at least 3 things with 2 hands;

Men can do only 2 things with 2 hands.

Agree?

En En is sick, so is the daddy

Baby En had mild cough last week and we thought we would monitor it. It got more frequent on Monday after she returned from IFC. And she had mucus in her nose which we thought was also hindering her milk intake. We decided to bring her to KKH at about 8+pm. Gosh, we waited for about 2 hours and decided to leave without seeing a doctor cos it was simply crowded and there were still more than 50 patients ahead of us.

So we brought her to SBCC the next morning. Dr prescribed ventolin on nebulizer for 2 days and wanted to see her again this morning. Well, that means I have to be away from work too cos she had to stay away from IFC for these few days on dr advise.

This morning's follow up went ok. Lungs seemed ok and dr said could stop nebulizer but continued to prescribe ventolin on oral together one other medicine. Dr advised me to watch her until weekend to make sure she fully recovers before bringing her back to IFC. So that means I will have to skip work again tomorrow. (My boss is going to squeeze me dead!) But well, my daughter's more important now.

Poor En is still coughing with phlegm and running nose. She has hoarse voice. When she screamed and cried this afternoon (for whatever reason) in her hoarse voice, I cried with her. It was such a pain.

I hope Baby En recovers soon.

PS: Hubby is also down with flu. Not sure if he caught it from En. Worse thing is he is having his exam tomorrow. All the best!

Baby En's first flip?

When I reached home from work today, En was already at home with the daddy, as usual. When I went to see her at her cot. She was already on her tummy! She was a little edgy cos her hand was trapped between the mattress and her tummy, so i helped her.

I was so excited that I jumped to kitchen to share my excitement with the daddy. He was quite cool and told me the teacher at the infant care centre also told him En could flipped already!

I carried En up and danced with joy with her.

Didnt manage to take a pic yet though.

Update (25 Apr 12):
Confirmed this was her first flip. Teacher Pat from Star Learners Infant Care said En could do a bit of a turn in the day, then came afternoon, En could flip over already! Wow...

The little things about Baby En

When En En was first born, her cries never failed to make me panic. We did not know why she cried and what we could do to ease her, help her or pacify her. Well, probably she didn't know what she wanted too, hahahaha.

As she grew, she began to show some patterns as she is more stabilised. Today, we are (more or less) able to predict what is coming up and determine the cause when she cries. I guess these are the standards for most babies.

Here are what we noticed:

1. Hungry - cry, wail or whatever. Gets louder and more intense of every minute of delay.

2. Soiled diapers - cry, wail or whatever. Well, her extend of crying is not proportionate to the amount to poo she has. She can scream like no tomorrow even for a 10-cent sized poo. Even her infant care teacher commented on that.

3. Tired - cry. I cannot describe but the sound is different from the above discomfort. When she is real tired, a quick pat or rock will see her snooze to dreamland in no time.

4. Needs company - cry (but not so intense). If she is in her pram, we will push her to where we are and talk to her. Well, sometimes dont even need to talk to her. As long as she knows someone's around and even when we chat with her around, she is pretty satisfied.

En En is now 16 weeks and 6 days. She is showing some signs that she can flipped over to her tummy anytime. She likes to be carried upright now but then your shoulder will be soaked with her saliva after that. And she sleeps comfortably.....

Baby En's second vaccine

En En had her second vaccination yesterday. It was a tiring day for her. Somehow since morning she seemed to be tired. When we reached KKH, she was still a little edgy but ended up giving sweet little smiles to those who managed her - the Specialist Clinic Asst who took her weight and length, the neonatologist (Dr Tan Pih Lin) who saw her and her clinic nurse.

After the consultation, she fell into deep sleep but had to be waken for the jabs. She was first administered the oral rotavirus vaccine (the cold med woke her up). Then came two jabs administered at the same time at each of her thighs. Was really painful to watch. And mummy me had to be an accomplice to hold her still. She was already crying with the hunger and tiredness and when the jabs came, she cried on top of her voice! What a heart shattering moment.

Dad was mentioning he too mouthed an 'OUCH' when En En screamed.

Sigh....she was still cranky today. Had a little fever in the wee hours and this afternoon at the infant care centre.

Fever no more now, but she is still edgy....wants to be carried.

Poor ah gal. :(

A rainy Monday morning

Thunder and lightning. It's now starting to rain. En En is to go to the infant care centre today after two days of MC last Thur and Fri.

Sigh, really feel like keeping her at home today too since it's raining and since I still have a week of leisure. But hubby is also on medical leave too. Needs to rest and study, the two things he probably cant do if En is home. So with a heavy heart, we are going to bring her to her 'school' in a while.

My lovely gal is zzzz-ing peacefully. :)

Weather hot, temper hot?

Today's weather is simply hot! Even Baby En felt it.

I dont know if it's because of her fever (now recovery stage) or the humid climate, she is cranky. And I don't know if it's because of the weather or because of the irritation caused by people around, I was as cranky as Baby En.

I realised I have started to feel very frustrated and irritate when, while I struggle to manage Baby En's cries, people around keep asking questions like "she wants to eat?", "has she eaten?", "she pooed is it?", "she wants to sleep ah?", "bath already?" Come on, stop asking me questions during this moment. They only add on to the noise! Though I am the mother, I am also trying to figure out sometimes, so why not you folks go and ask the baby what she wants and STOP asking me!

Many times, especially recently, I felt like I am going to have a breakdown, caused by an accumulation of things by the adults. One moment, when Baby En wear too little, I am told to put on more for her cos 'weather's cold'. When I give her long pants, I hear things like 'aiyoh, it's hot', and next moment, her long pants were off.

There are many more things that get into my nerves. So people, while your intentions are good, spare a thought too - when, what, how to say and is it even necessary to open your mouths.

I would be thankful.

Late introduction of Baby En

There is a big change in my life between my last post and now. Well, the big change came about with the arrival of a new baby.

Life has really changed, much. With a new member to the family, we no longer have the luxury to do things at our own time, our own likes. Baby schedule takes priority over other things.

Well, well, for a start let me officially introduce our new member, Baby Wei En in this blog.

Arrived on 19 Dec 2011

At 14 weeks now, she sure looks different eh?

Baby En is now at infant care centre. I miss her lots and wish I do not have to send her anywhere! I sure am not looking forward to going back to work.